Eggs Over Asia

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

learning from my daughter

Grace had her first-ever kindergarten performance a few weeks ago. Yes, indeed, Grace danced beautifully and had a great time. But even something as simple as a school performance can get interesting when you throw a little cultural misunderstanding into the mix.
Generally, information in this country is on a need-to-know-only basis. Or should I say, information is generally given at the last possible minute. Many of my local friends think it's odd we foreigners like to plan things out SO FAR in advance! I knew from Grace's teacher they would be having some sort of performance around Halloween weekend but info. was sketchy even 2 days out. [On a side note, we have lived overseas nearly 7 years and this was the first year it seemed to me people even knew about Halloween. Ugh, of all the holidays to get imported and passed on over, this one is not my favorite but I won't get going on that subject.]
So, on Thursday of that week I asked Grace's teacher when the performance would be, and she said they hadn't decided yet. On Friday I picked her up and they said Grace needed to be at school that evening for a rehearsal and that the performance would be Saturday. She gave me 2 slips of paper, one inviting all parents to come to the performance, which had all the regular admonishments to "be cultured," "not throw trash on the school grounds," etc. etc. And the other small note simply mentioned the kids would be dressing up in costumes and asked the parents to make sure boys wore dark pants. There was NO mention of what the girls should wear. I even had my friend double-check with me to make sure I read the Chinese correctly.
When I picked Grace up from her rehearsal Friday evening, the teacher asked me if Grace had any "princess dresses." I said she has a Snow White dress (since that was what Grace wanted to wear this year), and the teacher said, "Perfect, have her wear it!" Grace told me on the way home that the teachers tried to have her try on some dresses, but none of them fit. They were "WAY too short" as she put it. Yes, even at 5 my foreigner child towers over her peers. I told Grace "No problem! You can wear your Snow White dress and have so much fun!" She agreed and was excited to wear her Snow White dress for the big dance.
So here were my assumptions based on the little information I had: Each class would do some sort of performance, kids could dress up however they wanted, and the school would provide little costumes for kids who didn't have any. Ummmm, no.
The performances were not done according to classes. Not all the kids at the school gave performances, only a few kids in the older classes. The dancers were put together from various classes and were supposed to all wear the same little costume.

The school went all out and decorated. I mean, they even wrote "Happy Hallo" on the wall.

I had dropped Grace off earlier that day at the school's request. The kids were going to practice again. And, apparently put on make-up for all the little girls. Grace saw me come in with Trinity and was so happy to see us. Daddy was out of town and hated to miss this but I recorded it for him. (And because I was trying to keep an eye on Trinity while also recording Grace's performance, I'm totally claiming that as the reason for the following poorly-photographed moments!!) 5 little pumpkins got up to dance first. This should have been my first clue. I'm slow, people. And then Snow White and the other dancers got ready for their big dance. Hmmm, which one of these is not like the others? My heart kind of sank a little when I saw how different Grace's outfit looked. As if being the only white kid in the bunch didn't make her stick out enough. But you know what? My big girl got out there and danced beautifully and didn't miss a step. She had a blast from start to finish. Didn't even mention one time the entire evening about wearing a different outfit from the other kids. As my mother pointed out later, even as a kid of five I would have been MORTIFIED to be the "different" kid in that scenario.
I praise God for giving Grace a personality that doesn't mind being a little different. I truly pray that as she grows up, she doesn't mind going against the flow if it's for the right reasons. I pray her growing-up years, especially her middle school ones aren't plagued with constant insecurity like mine were. I was so proud of you Grace!!
Thankfully, Grace's performance was one of the first because afterward, this little bundle of energy decided she needed to explore the playground. And keeping up with her was no small feat that evening. I'm not sure if Trinity or Grace had more fun.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

October, we barely knew thee. It felt like one of the fastest recorded months in our family history and included a visit from friends, lots of work and home school, Grace's first ever performance at her local school (more on that later), and quite a bit of travel/business for Kevin. I'm so excited it's November!!

The first part of October we had some sweet friends hop on the overnight train to come visit us. We all had so much fun having them in our home for a few days! Of course we had to show them the highlights of our city.

Thank you, J and S, for coming to see us!

It only took 6.75 years, but I finally found some friends to give me Chinese cooking lessons. Of course, I've asked friends before to teach me and they just say, "Oh, I can't really cook anything special, just stir fry." Most folks cook at home by adding various combinations of oil, garlic, salt, ginger or soy sauce to meat and veggies and voila, you have dinner. So I was thrilled to have friends take me step-by-step through the process. The different thing about Chinese cooking is people hardly ever write down any recipes; you really just throw in a little of this and a little of that. But my friends allowed me to watch and write down step by step how they make their food. There are a few things I will change to fit our preferences, but it was a fun night seeing how they prepare meals.

Our yummy meal included a veggie we call bok choy, braised pork, seaweed, stir fry potatoes, a cold noodle dish, sausage, greens, and egg and tomato soup.

I had to include this picture from October just because I love it...

Fridays have become Grace's favorite day at home school because that's the day we do science experiments. Here we are mixing an acid and a base (vinegar and baking soda) to made fizz. And yes, you read that right, we used "Arm & Hatchet" baking soda. Gotta love the knock-offs here.

Since we have no traditional, round orange pumpkins in town for fall, we settled for painting butternut squash and xiaogua, a kind of veggie that is round and green and tastes like zucchini. The girls loved it!

And on Monday night, after a really hectic 4 days, daddy was home and we threw on some play clothes last minute and went to a few of our foreign friends' homes to trick or treat. We had a volunteer friend in town who has a grown son and encouraged us to savor these days with young children because they pass quickly and soon enough we'll be wishing we had little feet running around once again. Words of wisdom right there.

One of our friends had her dog greet us at the door dressed like an Arkansas Razorback fan. So cute!

After climbing 15 flights of stairs to go to 4 different homes, Grace and Trinity went home and enjoyed some candy corn for the first time ever. A friend had just come back from the US and was thoughtful to bring them some.

They both gave it a big thumbs up.

And there you have a little bit of life happenings from October.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

also from last month

In September:

We celebrated Mid-Autumn Festival once again. It's the 2nd biggest holiday here. Most folks get together with family, eat dinner, eat moon cakes, and gaze at the moon. Since our friend couldn't go home for the holiday we had her over to our house. We served moon cakes for her and chocolate cake for us. (I'm the only person in my family who will even attempt to eat a moon cake, and I can only stomach the fruit-flavored ones.) In our house, chocolate cake in the shape of a moon = moon cake.

We discovered a beach in our city! I know, we live in the mountains, but somebody decided we needed some sand in our lives. (Think man-made lake with sand hauled in from somewhere.) We had fun one evening making sandcastles and skipping rocks into the lake.

After almost a week of constant rain, we resorted to swimming in the bathtub for some indoor entertainment. Somehow bath time seems more special when wearing swimsuits. (Can you tell we bought Grace's swimsuit in Asia with the matching swim cap and all?)

And we discovered Trinity is a snuggler. I know I posted this pic on fb but felt the need to post it here too. Grace and Trinity take turns sleeping on the top/bottom of their bunk bed. But most nights, especially if Grace is sleeping on the bottom bunk, Trinity will crawl in right beside her. It's funny to go in and check on them each night and see who is sleeping where. Grace told me sometimes when Trinity climbs over and starts talking with her she just closes her eyes and pretends she's asleep. Smart girl. That Trinity is a NIGHT OWL and would probably be nocturnal if I let her.

You might be able to see Trinity's swimsuit jammies here, too. Thankfully she's out of this stage since it's getting COLD here but for about 2 weeks straight Trinity wanted to wear a swimsuit to bed. This girl already has lots of opinions about what she'd like to wear each day.